who said that you had to be okay?


Hello everyone! How are you? Are you okay? Interesting question, isn't it? Our generalized answer is yes, I am okay. But are you okay? You may be stressed out of your mind, you may just want to lay back and take a break for a minute, a day, a month, or a year. And that's okay! There's no reason why we should have to be okay every minute of every day.

Chances are, if you made a full blown list of everything you had to get done, it would be terrifyingly long, you would feel some mild stress pumping through your veins. That mild stress can be motivation, instead of sitting around, picking yourself up and doing those things on that list.

Of course, we should never let stress build up to anything more than that, but we shouldn't necessarily force it back down. You don't always have to have a smile on your face and keep working, you're allowed some time to be sad, or insanely stressed, because it goes away. And it doesn't have to go away in seconds or minutes, you may have to give it a couple hours or even days before you're fully calm again.

Happy is not the default setting on your body. Just because you're feeling a little elated at one moment does not mean you're going to get everything done on your to-do list super fast and have the rest of your day to yourself. In fact, feeling happy sometimes distracts me from my tasks. I'll have an urge to do something else (that's not on my to-do list), and I'll do it, because I feel good about it, I'll tell myself "Yeah bro, you do that thing because you're doing so great with your tasks today." (when in reality, i've only gotten one thing done.)

Once again, I am by no means telling you that you should be constantly stressed and mad because that's how things get done. It's good to be happy, but no person can always be happy. Sometimes, I slip into a mood of feeling content. Not happy or sad, just content. And I find that that's when I get the most things done, because my brain isn't giving me any distractions relating to my mood.

So attempt to push those stressful feelings away (I do this by saying "What should I be focusing on now?") but don't force yourself to feel happy, don't take time out of your day to make yourself happy unless you're so stressed and upset, that being content isn't enough. (that's important, i don't want anyone to misinterpret what i'm sayin here)

I know it sounds strange, telling yourself not to be happy all the time. But you don't need it, because in the end, finishing that essay is going to make you much happier than a little dance party you had just so you could feel happy. If you can put that dance party off to after your essay, or as a break while you're writing that essay, it feels so much better. BUT, don't hurt your emotions to get something done. IF you're feeling very upset and you're forcing yourself to write that essay, have your dance party. Make yourself feel comfortable first, don't push yourself that hard. 

In other news, I turned 13 a week ago, isn't that rad! I've epiphanies about life and the meaningless emotion that is stress and why I hate it so very much. I would expect more posts like this in the near future.

School has become so incredibly stressful as we're preparing for the regents, which are our first big standardized tests coming up in May. AAAAA.

But happy April! I really love April, the rain is a lot but the temperatures feel sweeter. (Is that an acceptable adjective to use to describe temperatures?)

Anyway, hope you all enjoyed, please don't make this post seem like I'm telling you not to be happy, all I'm trying to say is that if sometimes you don't feel happy, rather content, don't beat yourself up about it.

Thanks for reading,


  1. This is a really amazing and true post Noor. I needed this. Thanks! Also happy late birthday!

  2. That is definitely true Noor. Thanks for sharing; happy belated birthday! :)


  3. Thank you so much for sharing this, this is really true! Happy Birthday, Noor!

    1. yay i'm glad it made sense :P thank you!!

  4. Stress is just useless, Thanks for this post!
    Happy Belated 13th!!!!!
    x TG
    PS I don't know if you have seen or not but I nominated you for the One Lovely Blogger Tag a few weeks ago!

  5. I wish the temperatures feel sweater here-- it snowed a foot this past Wednesday, but it's going to be awhile for it to melt. Yay.

    I have to agree with keeping your feelings in check while working out everything, because it's something I've had to teach myself this past school year which has me burnt out like crazy. For example, my math homework stressed me out, so I went to go see La La Land. Just yesterday, I went to support friends in a production of West Side Story despite needing to study tons for my AP exams. Even staying in my room writing this makes my stress levels boil up, but I have to be calm.

    xoxo Abigail Lennah

  6. Okay, I will be 100% honest here. I only clicked this post cause alpacas are too adorable to not love and cherish the beauty of this animal daily. Yet the content is really important. Stress can be good but we should never let it build up too high as it can get really messy.

  7. Wow, brilliant post! Stress is so horrible, I know the feeling as I'm super stressed that the moment. The alpacas are adorable! We just shore our one!
    Happy 13th! How come all bloggers are turning 13 but I have to wait until July?!
    ~Emily x

  8. This is a wonderful post. It's a great reminder that it's okay not to be okay. Stress is really not great (unless it motivates you to get something done in which case, stress is okay, I guess).


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