Friday

We Use Words So Carelessly

Hello everyone! I'm postponing the MJpt2 review until Tuesday because I had a little thought-provoking conversation with my dad today.



Whenever I have bad days, like I had today, they cause me to think about things, things that would normally not even cross my brain.

I was talking with my dad about the book I recommended to him The Book Thief by Markus Zusak (great book, you should totally go read it) and he brought up how Liesel (the main character) brought up the word regret.

regret- sorrow filled with longing, disappointment or loss

Which caused me to think how carelessly we use the word. "I regret to inform you", which one of those would that be? Longing, no, disappointment, not likely, loss, maybe but not really.

Then I brought up sorry. Here's a challenge for you, count how many times you say sorry in a day, the number may surprise you.

We say sorry so much that it's lost meaning. Adding on to that challenge, look back and see how many times you actually, truly, meant that apology.

sorry - feeling distress, especially through sympathy with someone else's misfortune.

How many times do we actually sympathize with that person? You most likely forgot who you even said sorry to, and what you did. And if you didn't, you'll forget in two days time. 

And did that 'sorry' moment cause you any distress? Surely not. Like I said, you'll forget all about that in a couple of days. 

We changed our discussion to emotions. Sadness, happiness. What did that all really mean?

Who knew the true meaning of sorrow, what it was like to actually be sad? I think it's people who have known loss, who have had something near or dear to them gone. I wouldn't have felt true sorrow, yet my mom and dad would have. 

sorrow - a feeling of deep distress caused by loss, disappointment, or other misfortune suffered by oneself or others.

Similar to sorry, we constantly misuse this word. People will say "Oh, I am so sad!" because of one little thing that happened. Did you feel a 'deep distress'? Did it really hit you? 

What really got me thinking was happiness. What is the true meaning of happiness? When does one feel happy?

happy - feeling or showing pleasure or contentment.

We all set goals in our lives. Small, or big, they're goals we want to achieve. And I think true happiness is when you achieve those goals. You proved yourself that you can pass your own test, you're building up your self esteem.

Readers ask me why I do monthly goals. And that's exactly why. I feel a certain level of happiness when I achieve my monthly goals. But I do not feel sorrow when I do not reach them, I use those goals to build smaller, more achievable goals, and work my way up. 



There you have it. I hope this post was thought provoking, I meant it to be that way. I really want people to think about their words, how they are using them. People will use words without knowing the true meaning of them, and assuming they know it. 

Sorry for all the deep posts, I've just been really thinking about things a lot lately, the way society works, and why it works this way. I hope someone can relate :P

I'll have a DIY up on Sunday, super excited, I think it's something everyone can do :)

Thanks for reading,
Noor

8 comments:

  1. So good. <3
    I love deep posts.

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  2. i love this.

    p.s.: i don't mind deep posts xx

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  3. That's very true! English doesn't seem to carry the same amount of emotion that Urdu seems to carry! For example, I can't imagine equating "sorrow" to "udaasi". Even apologizing sounds so despairing "maafi mangna". That's one reason why I like shifting to Urdu when I want to say something passionately or forcefully- the language tends to carry a greater effect in my opinion!
    Good post, I liked it!
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  4. This was a very good post. It did make me think and I totally agree with you that we don't really use words how they are meant to be used a sometimes

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  5. Very thought-provoking. A thing somewhat related to this that annoys me is when people joke and say they're "traumatized" by all the homework they have or something, when really there are many people out there suffering from actual medical trauma from a harrowing event.

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  6. I just feel like there aren't enough words for the little feelings, so we turn big words into something lesser. If we're really sad then we could always say "in desperation" or "absolutely miserable". It is a little disappointing how words with so much meaning can be misused, but how else would we say what we need to say?

    -M
    The Life of Little Me

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  7. This is such a wonderful post! I'm going to have to dig up some new, useful words in my dictionary ♥
    Amy xx

    Little Moon Dragon

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  8. Hm... never thought 'bout that, but I can't say "I'm not saying sorry cause I'm not truly sorrowful" or whatever, but I do get what you mean.

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